Dove have done it again with another stunning video asking women when they last had ‘a beautiful thought’ about themselves. In another interesting and empowering video, they have taken the internal monologue of ‘normal’ women and presented it as two women talking in a cafe beside them some time later. The women were, quite understandably, horrified by what they overheard.
I think it is important to think about the internal pressures women (and men!) put on themselves. There’s a lot of talk about how we are influenced by the media and society around us but not as much about the internal battles we have with ourselves and the unfair expectations we place upon ourselves to reach a standard that is just really unobtainable. As humans, we have an evolutionary trait of looking at ourselves and working out how we can improve to be able to better survive. Unfortunately this drive to perfect ourselves is now somewhat unnecessary and leads us to continue to internally beat ourselves up for never being good enough. Of course, this isn’t always a bad thing, but in terms of our body image, it can be a really negative thing.
The antidote… a healthy bit of self compassion and understanding and perhaps giving ourselves a bit of a break.